I work with children and I see myself as a lifelong learner. For me, it means that I will always have room for improvement, however awesome I may grow to be in this field. :) I think understanding emotions, psychology, human development and therapy enable me to see myself from the outside, although I mess up at times. I do. Sometimes I say something that can't be taken back, or let my emotions cause me to react instead of respond. But, it means I acknowledge that I am not an expert in any field--I can be passionate and informed, but there will always be someone who is 'better' than I am. There will always be someone to learn from.
It's like people who say, "I love children. I love working with them." It does NOT mean they are knowledgeable or actually good with them! Those are very different things, yet they are always mistaken. Love for something does not equal skill. I'm sorry, but it doesn't. And so, when I offer advice and it's taken the wrong way, I wish people could see it from my side--if you love kids and want to work with them, you need to learn and practice methods and find your area of passion. Simply saying, "I love kids." is not enough for me. You need to be informed and skilled in this profession. Do you understand developmental stages? Do you understand how to cater to differing learning styles or children of lower SES or language deficits? Do you know how to foster independence and a positive self concept without being too overbearing? If you can start by answering these questions, I'll start talking to you as a colleague lol.
In terms of emotional awareness, just because you are aware doesn't mean you know how to listen proactively, resolve crises or conflict. But, I wasn't implying that in the first place. I wasn't! >_> When I was offering advice, it's not a blow to yourself as a person. It was me saying that I have this awesome book that I have found to be truly helpful in understanding my partner. If your partner is willing to try out the exercises, let me know. OMG I guess I reworded and solved my own problem in retrospect lol. i am so lame. But, i did something I wasn't supposed to do: I gave advice instead of asking if a person wanted it. That's a no-no! :( And I knew it after I did it. I gotta watch myself more closely.
It's like people who say, "I love children. I love working with them." It does NOT mean they are knowledgeable or actually good with them! Those are very different things, yet they are always mistaken. Love for something does not equal skill. I'm sorry, but it doesn't. And so, when I offer advice and it's taken the wrong way, I wish people could see it from my side--if you love kids and want to work with them, you need to learn and practice methods and find your area of passion. Simply saying, "I love kids." is not enough for me. You need to be informed and skilled in this profession. Do you understand developmental stages? Do you understand how to cater to differing learning styles or children of lower SES or language deficits? Do you know how to foster independence and a positive self concept without being too overbearing? If you can start by answering these questions, I'll start talking to you as a colleague lol.
In terms of emotional awareness, just because you are aware doesn't mean you know how to listen proactively, resolve crises or conflict. But, I wasn't implying that in the first place. I wasn't! >_> When I was offering advice, it's not a blow to yourself as a person. It was me saying that I have this awesome book that I have found to be truly helpful in understanding my partner. If your partner is willing to try out the exercises, let me know. OMG I guess I reworded and solved my own problem in retrospect lol. i am so lame. But, i did something I wasn't supposed to do: I gave advice instead of asking if a person wanted it. That's a no-no! :( And I knew it after I did it. I gotta watch myself more closely.
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